The “About Us” page interestingly begins with Who Said…“You will never be good enough. Nobody wants you. Who do you think you are? You’ll never amount to anything. Your past will always be here to remind you of the person you used to be. Nobody is going to agree with your idea. You’ll never be successful. You’re useless.”
Whether these words are spoken to someone as a child or as an adult, the words can have a lasting impact. Words definitely have power and can be used to tear down or build each other up. For years, I was plagued with negativity as a result of words that were spoken to me. I believed every negative word and learned to put on a good “act” that everything was fine.
Words have Power
I had to learn who I really was and embrace the reality that I have a past, but my past nor the words spoken to me had any control over my present or my future. I made necessary adjustments which included learning to speak life and not death over myself consistently and daily. It is very important that we pay attention to the words that we speak.
Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it and indulge in it will eat its fruit and bear the consequences of their words. Proverbs 18:21 AMP
Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit—you choose. Proverbs 18:21 MSG
Consider the following options to change your thought life:
- Pray and seek God for restoration of who you are in Him.
- Read the Word of God daily.
- Be attentive to triggers that cause negative self-talk. If at all possible, avoid these negative triggers or make purposeful steps to change the way you respond to those triggers.
- Surround yourself with positive people. You may need to change your inner circle and develop new friendships/relationships.
- Replace negative thoughts immediately with positive thoughts.
- Write out a declaration to speak over yourself daily. Read the declaration out loud and hear yourself speak these words over your life.
There was a time in my life that I could not speak a positive word over myself because I was in such a dark place. When I knew and accepted that it was time for a change, I began by writing scriptures on index cards, laminated the cards, and placed them on a bracket ring to always have with me. No longer was I going to allow darkness to cover me and believe the lies. I am a daughter of the King and must live as one. The scripture cards provided immediate comfort when I recognized that I was under attack and needed to prevent negative self-talk from taking root in my mind. Satan will plant a negative seed thought in our minds, it is up to us whether we water the seed or uproot it with the Word of God, prayer, and positive self-talk.
I encourage you to do as 2 Corinthians 2:5 instructs us to do: Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ.
Think about what you’re thinking about. (That’s another blog for later.)
~Dr. Monica Debro