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I don’t look like what I went through!

Deon Kipping has a song titled “I don’t look like what I’ve been through.” When I first heard this song, I literally ran around my home. I can definitely relate to this song and maybe you can as well. We all have a past which includes various life experiences. A key point about the things of the past, present, and future is how we respond to it. We cannot change our past, but we can learn valuable lessons that will help us grow and be better prepared for other situations that will happen in our lives.

Someone said to me once “you don’t ever go through anything”. I was shocked! What did this person mean that I don’t ever go through anything. The individual further stated that I didn’t look like I ever go through anything. Well, looks can be deceiving. It was interesting that this statement was made to me during a time that I was going through a serious uneasy situation. [Read more…]

By Monica Debro

Love Yourself to Life

We’ve heard the words, “I love you to death.” This statement can have different meanings to different people. Having been in several intimate partner violence (also known as domestic violence) relationships and almost loved to death, I do not particularly care for the statement. I would rather be LOVED to LIFE! When we love ourselves and others to life, we add to the essence of our lives and others.

“Having been in several abusive relationships, I speak from experience in knowing that it is hard for some women to break from the cycle of abuse. I knew it wasn’t normal and didn’t have the strength to walk away from the relationship. Each time I left, I somehow found my way back into something that was not good for me.

I’ve been stabbed in the arm, had a broken nose, choked to near death, and had a hot iron placed against my left leg which is now a permanent reminder of an abusive past. I have lost a baby as a result of physical and emotional abuse. Throughout all of this, God kept me, spared my life, and removed me from the relationships. [Read more…]

By Monica Debro

Who Said…“You will never be good enough?”

The “About Us” page interestingly begins with: Who Said…“You will never be good enough. Nobody wants you. Who do you think you are? You’ll never amount to anything. Your past will always be here to remind you of the person you used to be. Nobody is going to agree to your idea. You’ll never be successful. You’re useless.”

Whether these words are spoken to someone as a child or as an adult, the words can have a lasting impact. Words definitely have power and can be used to tear down or build each other up. For years, I was plagued with negativity as a result of words that were spoken to me. I believed every negative word and learned to put on a good “act” that everything was fine. [Read more…]