-By Trina McWilliams
But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.
2 Peter 3:18 NIV
I started a Facebook ministry, at least that’s what I called it, a week before I received some news that would break my heart and cause me to not date for 3 years. The day I set up the Facebook page named “Growing in Grace” and started posting encouraging words, poems, and scriptures. I didn’t know I would then use those same words to encourage myself a week later. God had prepared me to heal through encouraging others and helping others heal. We deliver others through the words of our testimony (Revelation 12:11).
I was dating a man who had been my friend prior to us dating for four years. He pursued me slowly and was consistent. He was not only my friend, but also a mentor of mine. I would go to him for advice as it related to my career and over time I fell for him. I said to myself this is the one because he
pursued me differently than any other man had. I decided to date him and of course I let him know I was saving myself for marriage. With this, he was not patient at all and for the first time I saw an impatient man. One day I finally gave in and he was this erratic beast, was not gentle, and was not patient. I realized that it was not love at all. When it was over, it was as if he had conquered me. I felt the innocence of what we had leave instantly and he changed immediately. In a short few months, I then found out he was moving to California to be with his 3 children and the woman he was engaged to be married. The way he treated me left me devastated and shocked. [Read more…]