Let me tell you something real—I almost didn’t write this. Not because I didn’t have the words, but because I was frustrated. Not the kind of frustration that makes you yell or slam a door, but the kind that quietly simmers. The kind that settles deep in your chest when you’re waiting on God to move, and He’s taking His time.
I sat at my computer praying this morning, asking, “God, what now?” I’ve been working, praying, listening, and doing what I believe He’s called me to do. But some days, the next step feels blurry. It’s like walking with fogged-up glasses—you’re moving, but you’re unsure of what’s ahead. That’s where I was. Sitting with questions about the next move for Love Yourself to Life, wondering if I missed something, if I’m doing enough, or if I’m just… stuck.
Frustration shows up like that. Especially for us as women. We carry so much—managing homes, raising children, handling work, healing from trauma, trying to love ourselves, and still be present for others. And even when we’re doing “all the right things,” life still feels like it’s moving slower than we’d like. That gap between our effort and our outcome can be exhausting.
But here’s what I know, and what I want to share with you: frustration is not your ending place. It’s just a stop along the way.
So let’s talk about it. Not just about being frustrated, but what to actually do when you feel it building. Because we need more than cute quotes and quiet tears. We need practical truth to help us stand in the middle of it and not fall apart.
1. Tell the Truth About How You Feel
There’s nothing noble about pretending you’re fine when you’re unraveling inside. You can still love God and feel frustrated. You can still have faith and admit, “Lord, I’m tired.”
In Psalm 62:8 (NIV), it says:
“Trust in Him at all times, you people; pour out your hearts to Him, for God is our refuge.”
You don’t have to hold it in. You’re allowed to pour it out. Whether it’s about your business not growing the way you hoped, relationships not healing, finances falling short, or just feeling overlooked—God can handle your truth.
When I prayed this morning, it wasn’t a perfect prayer. It was a real one: “God, I’m frustrated. I need direction. I’m trying, but I don’t feel clarity right now.” And as soon as I said it, I felt a release. Not because everything changed instantly, but because I changed. I made room for Him to meet me in the raw place.
Don’t minimize your emotions. Acknowledge them. That’s where healing starts.
2. Stop Trying to Force the Outcome
One of the most frustrating things we do is try to force a timeline God never gave us. We create these invisible deadlines and when things don’t happen “on time,” we assume we failed.
Let’s be honest. You ever sat there and said, “By now I thought I’d be married,” or “I should be further in my business,” or “Why does it seem like everyone else is thriving but me?” That comparison and control will choke your peace every time.
Ecclesiastes 3:1 reminds us:
“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.”
God moves in seasons, not panic. And just because it hasn’t happened yet doesn’t mean it won’t. But trying to push, manipulate, or force things to happen before their time will only leave you more discouraged.
Sometimes the delay is protection. Sometimes it’s preparation. But either way, it’s purposeful.
So let go of the pressure to “make it happen.” Take your hands off the clock and trust that the God who planted the vision in you still has the power to bring it to pass—in His time, not yours.
3. Do the Next Right Thing
When you’re overwhelmed with frustration, the big picture feels too heavy. That’s why you need to scale it down. Ask yourself, “What’s the next right thing I can do?”
Maybe it’s sending that one email. Maybe it’s taking a break and getting some fresh air. Maybe it’s writing down the ideas floating in your head instead of trying to make sense of them all at once.
Frustration will try to paralyze you. But taking one small, intentional step can shift your focus. You don’t have to do everything today. You just need to stay faithful with what’s in front of you.
When I finished praying earlier, I didn’t get a big booming answer. But I did feel peace about writing. So I wrote this. And maybe this is the reminder you needed today.
You are not behind. You are not forgotten. You are not alone.
Frustration doesn’t mean failure. It means your heart is invested. It means you care. And that’s a beautiful thing—because God sees that too.
Final Thoughts
I want to encourage every woman reading this who feels like they’ve been doing all they can and still don’t see the breakthrough. You are not overlooked. You are not doing life wrong. You are growing—and growth often feels like tension before it becomes transformation.
It’s okay to sit in the quiet. It’s okay to not have all the answers. What matters is that you don’t give up in the middle of it. This moment may not feel good, but it’s not wasted. God can use even this to draw something powerful out of you.
And when frustration comes knocking again—as it will—you’ll be able to say, “I’ve been here before, and I’m not staying here.”
Let this blog be your reminder to keep trusting. Keep resting. Keep listening. But most of all, keep showing up with your whole heart. Even in the frustration. Especially in the frustration.
Because right there, in that uncomfortable space, is where God often reveals the very next thing you need.
And if you’re not sure where to start, just go back to these three things:
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Tell the truth about how you feel.
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Stop trying to force the outcome.
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Do the next right thing.
Everything doesn’t have to make sense today. It just has to be surrendered.
I see you. I understand. And I’m walking this out too. One step, one prayer, one moment at a time.
Let’s keep going—together.
Now, I’d love for you to read the full blog and connect with me by joining the email list. Let’s stay encouraged and keep lifting each other up—especially in those frustrating seasons when the answers feel far away.
Your next move is coming. Stay ready. Stay faithful. Stay you.
With Love & Support,
Dr. Monica
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